Life lessons for my daughters!!!

I saw this idea over at my best friends blog (http://lifeandtimesofbrandi.blogspot.com/)and diecided that I wanted to particapte but I tweaked it some. I think there are all life lessons that girls/young women should learn from thier mothers

5 things I want them to know about me
1. That when the going got tough I never gave up. I think too many people take the easy way out and I can say I have never tired to do that
2. That I am a daughter of god and I will see them in heaven.
3. I want them to understand the relationship I have with my parnets and also my mother. I think they need to know at some ppoint all i went thru but I will ot tell them until they are older.
4. That i wanted them very much and was happy to give them life and that they have given me so many blessings and joy
5. That I would not change one minute of my life.

5 Things I want them to learn from me
1. How to put make up on properly. I refuse to have slutty girls
2. How to chose a mate that will love/honor/ cherish them.
3. How to give back to others
4. How to love god and to follow and obey his word as best as they can
5. That whatever path thier life takes thme I will support them even if they are not something I would agree with.

5 things they need to never give up on
1. Thier life. Regardless of how hard life may get they should never think about hurting themsleves
2. Each other. They are the only sisters they will ever have and they need to cherish that
3. Thier education- As long as they do what they want to do they need to keep working on bettering thier lives
4. Best Friends- They need to make a life long buddy becuase I know without Brandi I would have not known where to turn
5. God- They always need to love/honor and obey god regardless of life.

Manic Monday

So this Manic Monday, I would like 20 minutes of peace and quite with out the girls at the end of the day. I know that is not realistic.

After dealing with Clients all day I would enjoy this time to decompress from the stress of my job.

Not a bi Manic Monday but I am tired and need to hit the sack

Do you play favorites??

So I was listening to the radio the other day and they were talking about if parnets really paly favoirtes in their family.

I can say in my family when I was growing up therer were defintie favoirtes and I was no one. When I lived with my Mom and brother, she would favor him over me becuase she only eanted to have a boy and was not happy that she had a girl.


When I went to live with my dad, stepmom and her children, I was hopefull things would change but this time I can say that I was not the least favorite but that that slowly chnaged as my attiudte towards my step mother chnaged and her and I no longer got a long. I am still no longer the favorite of the family and I am ok with that because I dont have to live up to other people's expectations.

So where does this lead me. Lately I have been thinking if I had been playing favoirtes with my own children and I wish I could say that I dont but I have to say that I play favoirtes on both girls for different things.

For Kylie she is my favoirte when she gets in bed and goes to sleep without fighting. On the other hand she drives me nuts when in the morning she won't get up. Biggest pain in the world. Maddison on the other hand will fight sleep for 3 hours and get up the next morning no problem.

I also think I play favoirtesw when it comes to punishment. With Kylie all we have to do is ground her and she gets back in line and we have no problems for a while. Yet Maddison on the other hand we could beat(we don't) and she would look at us and ask us for another spanking(she has done this)

Yet in the end I love my girls equally and would give the same punishment to both girls due to the crime they commit.

What do you think, do you play favoirtes?

Graduation

Wow I never thought I would be posting that my youngest is graduating from preschool. For me it was very emotional because she is my last baby for the next 5 years to go to school. As we got to the church this morning where they were having it at the daycare had set up a power point and maddison's baby picture popped up. I started crying immediately. Matt was making fun of me for it. Maddison did really good she got her diploma and a award for most cheerful. We then went to chuckie e cheese where we were there for an hour because Matt worked late last night and he was very tired.
Such a sad day for me but also a happy day because it means she is growing up and there is nothing I can do to stop it.

Loving ... Romantically or Dutifully

I was reading this book a few nights ago and this phrase popped out to me about how she was questioning wheater or not her husband loved her romantically or dutifully. Well this got me thinking and seeing how I woke up thinking about it the next morning i knew it was meant to be a post. So here we go my ramblings on love.

Merriam Webster has this definiiton about love: strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties (2) : attraction based on sexual desire : affection and tenderness felt by lovers (3) : affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests b : an assurance of love

I have been thinking ablot about love. Matt and I have hit a rough patch in our marriage where we both are working like crazy, trying to manage the bills and the kids and there seems to be little time for us. This has been a greater stressor to me becuase he feels nothing is worng yet when I read this line the other night it got me wondering does he love me out of romance or because he has to becuase of duty.

When you start dating things are great there are no problems and you know someday you will get married and have babies and if those things dont happen you move on. Yet when you do find that one things are great. I think for Matt and I we have been through so much with him deploying that we would get to do the whole new love thing over again and now that he is home constantl we are having to find a new balance. This is the romantic love where things are great and where you hope to never leave.

Yet there is the dutifull love. The one where you make yourself tell him you love him even though him leaving the toilet seat up for the million. I think we all get into a rut of where we feel like it is dutifull love rather than romantic love and that is ok becuase there are times that we need to remind oursleves why we feel in love. Yet how do you bring yourslef back? For matt and I it is a night out. That may sound kooky but we had Kylie before we got married so that is how we get our relationship back.

I think there are times that perople go lookign fro romantic love in the arms of someone else and end up regretting it becuase if they would have taken the time they could have found a way to become romantically in love again.

Before I start getting beat let me say this. I think there are times when divorce is the only option yet I think divorce has become to easy fro people to use. Rather than fighting for thier marriage they would rather walk away becuase it is to much work to try to save thier marriage.

PS. My title came from a romance novel.